Got a DM About My Trans College Sweetheart & Here is My Response to the Ignorance
I got a DM a months ago. The young man wrote the following, “Hi I saw in one of your post that you dated a shemale in college. Do you consider yourself gay and if not how did you over come the fact that she has a dick? I have been chatting with this shemale. We even met up for a drink. You would never know she had a dick. I wanted to take the relationship to the bedroom and don’t know if I can do that with someone with a dick. Can you describe your first shemale encounter?”
For about a month I debated back and forth to respond or not. I didn’t like the fact that he use the porn term “shemale” and that he was asking if I was gay. But, last night, I read the message again and decided to share my thoughts on his question.
I wrote the following:
Hi xxxx,
I am not sure if you wrote this message to me as a joke or if you are serious. I am going to assume that you're serious and just completely miss guided. First off, the terminology that you have used, the porn term shemale and asking if I am gay, tells me that you either have some kind of sexual fantasy or assume that I do about transgendered women. The post that you are referencing was focused on the fact that a transgendered lady is for the most part a lady and should be treated as such.
I am assuming that a lot of transgendered ladies deal with guys like you. I am sorry for that. You might be he type of guy who watches a ton of transgendered porn and develops a fantasy about sex with a transgendered female. Then they get scared that they might be gay. Would if you are bi or gay. Who cares it is 2023.
My experience was nothing like that. While in college, I had never looked for transgendered, shemale, chicks with dicks, or gay porn. When she told me that she was trans and had been transitioning since she was 17. I was in total shock. I had no idea. When she said it, I could tell she was super scared. So I didn’t have any crazy harsh reaction. I am in my 40s. Being transgendered in the early 2000s was not an easy road to travel. But, at that point, I was in love. Not in love with the fact that she had a dick. But, the fact that I loved her. At that point it didn’t matter. I thought she was beautiful. She was feminine, had a wonderful set of implants and had been on harmones for some time. She also was beautiful on the inside too. She was and is a wonderful person.
What was between her legs was pretty much not the focus on my mind. To answer your question. I am not gay. My x was a female in all the ways that matter. I can tell you, transgendered sex is complicated and takes maturity and communication with your partner. From what you have said in your message, I think you want me to give you a play-by-play of our sexual encounters. I don’t mind giving pointers from my experience to an actual curious young man. But, the fact that it is so important to you makes me think you are not serious about this lady and I am sorry she is dating you. I care too much about my x to entertain your request and give you a play-by-play.
I suggest you leave this lady alone and turn on your porn videos and enjoy your fantasy.
I hope I wasn't to harsh in my response. But, this is the type of guy that ends up hurting people. I mean hurting people not in a kinky way lol. There is nothing wrong with having preferences. But, when your attraction becomes a fetish, you have to think about why you have the attraction in the first place. People are not fetishes. They are people.
This is just my opinion. I am not an expert. But, I think this guy was out of line.
