Why I Love Kink and BDSM. How about yourself?

So the other day, I was asked to describe what I like so much about Kink and BDSM specifically. He was surprised by my response. Because of my role as a Dom, I think he expected me to say something different. I think he expected me to say something regarding the ability to fuck as much as I want. But, to be honest, I see sex as a tool I use in a Kink scene to get my sub to a certain point in her journey. It is not the goal. I broke my answer into four different reasons: honesty, sex, control, and natural high.

Honesty:

Ever since I was a teen, BDSM was my favorite type of porn to watch. It wasn't because I fantasized about being a Dom and doing all of the kinky things to an eager submissive. I will admit. Maybe I did a little. But as I grew older and entered the BDSM world. I later discovered that the reason why I love it is that it is real. The participants in the films were reacting to the stimulation. No matter what it was that I was watching; impact play, rope play, orgasm denial, or just plain hard fucking. The participant's reactions were so honest and real.

When I think about, as a participant, I love the fact that BDSM play is frank. You convey to your partner what you like and want and don't like and you take a journey together with no judgment. In many ways, that kind of honesty can make one feel vulnerable. But, those of us in this world are ok sharing that part of ourselves with trusted partners. But, at the same time, it can be a beautiful experience.

Sex:

Of course, sex is an obvious one. However, some are shocked when I say it is not the driving force for me. Yes, I am human. My body responds to stimulation. I am going to get hard and cum when getting a blow. I love sex and as a Dom, in most situations, I get to use my sub's body anyway I please. Sexuality is very important to my love of BDSM. But, I don't think it is what drives me. Like I mentioned before. I tend to use it as a tool I use in just like a vibrator or flogger I used during a scene. It is a way to help my sub have a deeper experience and grow. I find it just as enjoyable to conduct a non-sexual impact play scene. That brings me to the next two points.

Giving me control

Control:

I always feel honored when a submissive female gives her body and mind over to me. It is intoxicating. It is not done easily. My message to all young Doms it takes time for a sub to truly submit to you. The trust that she is giving me and the fact that she wants me to help her along her kink journey is amazing. Watching her obey and allow me to take control is one of the things I love about BDSM.

Natural High:

This is the hard part to describe.  Because of the honesty of BDSM, I love it when my submissive begins to reach the point of no return where she loses herself and enters into some kind of euphoric state of mind. I love looking into her eyes and know that she can barely speak and is now there. She is in a state of a natural high and it is beautiful to watch. I have seen this happen from something simple like a forced orgasm or just a long-impact play scene. I can see how BDSM can become addictive. Once I gave one of my previous subs a very intense impact scene filled with flogging and whipping. I even broke some skin. At the point that I hoped she wold say her safe word or I was going to make the decision to stop. I looked into her eyes and I knew I could stop she was there having an amazing intense natural high. She was shaking tears in her eyes saying "thank you sir." All I could do then was hold her as she came down to make sure she knew she was ok. For some reason she would get super turned on from impact play and even cum. She told me during aftercare the intensity of the sensations would just take over her body and she was so happy I was there to be with when it happened. I will admit being along for the journey and experiencing that with my submissive was more arousing for me than any sexual activity. I think I entered into a natural high as well.

Now I am curious about my fellow Kinksters. What do you love the most about kink and BDSM?