Non-Sexual Subs & Doms’ Need Attention To
The beauty of BDSM is that we come in a variety of desires and fetishes. Some of which have nothing to do with sex. However, when someone says they are non-sexual it seems to be frowned upon in the kink community. Before I begin to say more, I should probably explain what a nonsexual submissive or Dominant is. Well, it might come as a shock to many new to BDSM, but BDSM is not all about sex. Yes, sexual play is included in the majority of the play. But, there is a segment of the kink population who identify as nonsexual.
They might come in the form of a sub who loves to be helplessly tied in ropes or a Dom who feels energized after giving a sub a good spanking or flogging. There are so many other forms of play that don't involve any fucking or sexual activity. The list would be endless. To these individuals, fucking their partner or being fucked by their partner has nothing to do with their fetish.
I have had a few nonsexual submissives message me and say they were shocked that I continued to engage and chat with them when I found out they didn't want sex. My personal goal as a Dom is to help my sub reach her goals. If service and letting go don't involve sex, I am ok with that. I have been told that some Doms don't want to have anything to do with them. I will be honest. Some of my submissives, and I won't mention their names, have been nonsexual or partially sexual.
I have had one sub who became very aroused, playing with my feet, sucking my toes, and licking my palms. She would even orgasm with a soaking pussy without it being touched. But, being fucked was a hard limit for her. That situation didn't turn me off. I enjoyed watching her give me a foot bath with her mouth and tongue. I found myself completely satisfied with our scenes and interactions. The act of submission and service is what I seek in a D's relationship.
But. I am curious about how everyone else feels. Are you a nonsexual sub or Dom? If so, how have your interactions been in the world of kink? If you are nonsexual, you are not alone. Sex is not what BDSM is all about for me and many others How about you? Doms, do you need sex every time your sub-services you?
